I am in reality a very happy person. I have sisters who love me. A dad who believes in me. Really great friends who understand me. A boss that trusts me with his wheels. A place to live close to lots of fun. A basketball team that is in the NBA Finals. A haircut that means business. I mean truly I live a charmed existence and yet even someone as optimistic as I am can not help but be frustrated by a few things that I have either experienced or heard about.
I told the photographer make sure I look really smug. Mission accomplished.
- My phone took a shower and now I can't get text messages. Yes my flag football team Shower in a Can finally won a game in which I made a few key contributions on defense including a QB sack on fourth down and a few (like three) deflections of passes. However the football gods required a sacrifice and apparently it was my phone. It started to absolutely pour rain and my phone has not been able to fire up yet. I'm able to forward my calls to my Blackberry but if you have tried to send me a text in the last 24 hours I haven't gotten it. Oh frustration.
- In addition to having my phone take a dip, in the midst of what seemed like hurricane (not to confused with Hurrencane) conditions I lost my football. The football that I had won so many flag football games in college with. It had a ton of sentimental value but someone picked it up and alas it was not me.
- HMMM. Wondering how to phrase this diplomatically. Totally frustrated by girls who don't know what they want and who send mixed signals. Seriously girl, make up your mind one way or another. No more vacillating, no more we're pals, no we're more than pals. Enough already.
- I got pretty fired up (which for me means getting kinda mad and then really quiet. I'm pretty easy to read, if I'm quiet in a group setting chances are I'm mad) at a dinner party on Friday night. I have noticed that many of the young ladies I interact seem to have a list of qualifications they feel their suitors should meet. I understand this myself. I have certain things at varying levels of importance that I look for but for some ladies they seem to take this to the extreme. Even I have my shy moments (I know hard to believe) but I would say for the most part if I want to ask a girl out and I sense that I have a better than average chance she'll say yes, I'll call her up no problem. Not all guys are like that. I'm not sure girls realize that a guy is pretty well putting himself out there when he asks her out. In fact in most cases by him asking you out he is indicating at least a rudimentary interest in you. You should be flattered even if you aren't necessarily interested back. Don't get so hung up on how he asks you out because you know what? There are a lot of other girls he could be asking out, a lot of Ultimate Fighting DVD's he could be watching , a blog he obsesses about way too much, and a number of other things he could be doing. Instead this guy has risked humiliation and chosen not to pursue his other interests but to spend time to get to know you better. I do not begrudge that you would prefer and hope he is good looking, smells good, has a testimony, and dresses nice (Wolf Shirts are especially classy) and has nice teeth. I want those things myself. But the dumb things like "he emailed me", "he didn't come up with a creative enough first date", "he didn't tell me it was a double date." That is a sign of disrespect? Really? Are you serious? This is not a sign of anything. In fact chances are that if he did all those things differently you'd find ten other reasons why he wasn't "respecting you". Instead set the stupid things aside and be excited that you're going to be entertained, fed, and possibly adored for a few hours. If you don't want this, say no. Don't go and stop complaining. In return we guys will go back to watching the Office, practicing our arm bars, or going to the driving range. It's cool, either that or we'll find someone who is more relaxed and realizes it's just a date... and has very little deeper meaning beyond that. ( Oh it feels good to have the rage back.)
- Seriously? That guy? You're joking? Really? Whatever.
Much like Larry Bird, Kevin McHale, and Robert Parish, Prince Charming is not walking through that door. If he did, he wouldn't be here for you.
Well I guess that is it. I am frustrated that my phone is waterlogged, my football is AWOL, girls give mixed signals, and that lists with what I consider "stupid" expectations exist. Other than that not too many frustrations. Have a wonderful week!
8 comments:
hi peter ... ahhh yes i understand all those frustrations - mixed signals are truly the worst. Lets face it, mixed signals are confused and selfish attempts at validation. Girls are notorious for it (not that guys aren't completely off the hook).
Hope things start looking up for you this summer.
How can I not weigh in on this topic? For some years now I have been a big advocate for women to rip up or burn their "lists."
Really - a list? It seems so simplistic and unsavory - like sampling a snack pack and finding out it is sugar free. It's still a snack pack.
Sometimes people are shy and asking girls out is difficult - give him a break. Other times he may very well have planned out a great date only to have it turn out to be a disaster - but you may never know.
In addition to lists - I am miffed by the common practice to not accept a date because of "girls night out" or "apartment dinner." If that is where priorities are placed do you have any right to complain about not getting asked out? If your priority is with your girl friends - then don't be surprised if dates aren't coming your way.
Reality is not found in a list - and if it was is that really what you want - the perfect cookie cutter person to meet all of your needs? They already tried that in Pittsburgh, Cincinnati, Philidelphia and Atlanta with cookie cutter ballparks to service football and baseball - what they found was the stadiums serviced neither sports well. I submit your list won't produce what you ultimately want - because you are eliminating what you need to make your dream come true.
You know Pete, I haven't actually seen the Fug shirt in a while. I had forgotten that it had chains, wolves *and* Lame a$$ wording on it. Yes, I think the wording is now my least favorite part - because anytime an article of clothing has the words X-Treme on it you can pretty much count on everyone thinking you are a complete tool for wearing it.
Except for maybe Xtina Aguilera.
I love that shirt, I own one similar to it, and would consider buying another. Rock on my brother!
Just because someone sees something differently than you does not make them wrong. As someone who overheard that conversation, I think you are overreacting.
I am convinced that we are the same person living in 2 different bodies. haha. You didn't have to make up such an elaborate story for an excuse of not texting me back. Read my blog. Please.
aww Peter you know I would go out on a date with you any time and totally enjoy every minute of it :) We seriously need to make 2 Amys work one day. I really don't think Will would mind at all :)
DC in 8 days!
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